But what’s wrong with transactional, if there’s a genuine connection? Do you remember the old love songs by Teddy Pendergrass? “It’s so good loving somebody when somebody loves you back…talking about 50/50 love!” Kant admonished us to always treat people as an end in themselves, and not just instruments. I think as long as you bear that in mind, the healthiest relationships are equitably transactional AND passionately friendly.