I think there’s a subconscious power dynamic going on here. I recently defined power as the ability to meet an expectation. Instinctively I think there’s a transactional element where women are expected to pleasure men sexually and in return men provide financial or emotional security. This is happening at a non conscious level and it’s exhausting to override. In my opinion the only way to address this is to consciously and objectively evaluate the exchange of value. Women earn more these days and should therefore have more leverage. The problem here that so many women are willing to suck dicks that it’s hard to compete or ignore that there is a competition.