Perhaps it’s time to rethink the goal of casual dating? The Greek philosophers such as Aristotle and Pythagoras held friendship as the highest value. Harvard university discovered that the number one value that makes people happy is friendship. A core condition of friendship is loyalty. 21 Savage profoundly wrote that he’d rather have loyalty than love.
My point is that if we are continue to be driven by the automatic evolutionary functions of our mind, we are no different than other animals. If we instead set rational intrinsic goals to build lasting and loyal friendships, then all of a sudden dating becomes fulfilling.
What’s love, but a second hand emotion? Wouldn’t YOU rather have loyalty?