So here’s my question: if both parties don’t want to do a given household task, does one party concede to do the task? Is one party coerced into doing the task or is the said party just more responsible? Does one party value the task being completed more than the other and is therefore more motivated? In all the domestic relationships I have been in, I was by far the major breadwinner and did most of the housework including cooking. For me, the tasks needed to be done and I did them because they were more important to me. If women generally are doing more of the household chores, do they have different values than men? They are capable of exercising free will to say no to sex, so why not be assertive about domestic labor? Of course, where men are using power to coerce women into doing more work then that’s also a serious problem that needs to be resolved.