So if I may ask, what exactly “is” your rant? Are you stating than men should have kids before THEY are ready? It doesn’t read like these men are committing an act of fraud if they really meant it. If the promise of having kids was a critical term of engagement, was a timeline agreed upon or was this left open ended.
If a man courts a woman with a commitment to be a father in X years that’s different to me than a man who vaguely states “I want X kids”.