What is the difference between seeing someone as an object “it” versus a subject “thou” with attributes and behaviors? A subject can be detrimental based on their characteristics and actions and conversely they can be (objectively) valuable. To deny this is perhaps the reason why we deify subjects as a consequence of affective and social reality. I’d argue that a healthy relationship is based on objectively valuable interactions and exchanges even when unilateral as in the parent child hierarchy.