Why do you refer to this as “emotional labor”? It seems to me that it can be objectively quantified in terms of the time it takes or even labor costs. For example, over the last 6 years I’ve always had a house assistant once or twice a week that helps with cleaning, laundry and even ironing. The cost for about 4–6 hours was $100. She does a fantastic job and it relieves a lot of domestic stress. When either you or your husband were working full time, did that 40 hour a week (plus commute) contribution to the household count?