Your mileage may vary of course, but I don’t think it’s hard for any gender to meet a partner when they’re very clear about their value proposition. Basically, be upfront about the value you bring, and how you believe you are a solution to challenges they experience.

Here’s how I interpret this.

“Values are the motivating power of man's actions and a necessity of his survival, psychologically as well as physically.”
Ayn Rand

A goal however is an ultimate or primary value. Purpose is the reason or instinct for the goal. So I see the goal as being external, while the purpose is an internal metaphysical reality, and I think you confirm that with your proposition that purpose implies action.

“Values are the motivating power of man's actions and a necessity of his survival, psychologically as well as physically.”
Ayn Rand

When you bring value, you motivate.